What I’ve Learned About My Brain (and Yours)

A personal look at neuroscience coaching

I used to think I could outsmart stress. Push through it. Out-organise it. Drown it in colour-coded calendars and late-night pep talks. I thought if I just worked hard enough, or got a little more disciplined, I could outrun the creeping sense of exhaustion and disconnection that had started to follow me everywhere.

But eventually, it caught up.

I burned out.

Not in a dramatic, overnight collapse kind of way—but in the slow, quiet unravelling that looks functional on the outside. I was still doing the work, still smiling, still showing up. But inside, I was exhausted. Foggy. Frustrated. Easily overwhelmed by the smallest things, like deciding what to eat or replying to a message. It felt like I was watching myself from the outside, just going through the motions.

AND THE WORST PART?

I blamed myself for it.

It wasn’t until I found neuroscience coaching that things started to click.

I didn’t even go looking for it. I was just trying to understand why nothing I was doing seemed to help. Why “rest” didn’t feel restorative. Why I kept swinging between over-functioning and shutting down. And why, despite knowing all the right things to do, I couldn’t seem to feel any better.

Neuroscience coaching didn’t give me a new routine. It gave me a new lens.

I started learning how the brain reacts to long-term stress. How the nervous system holds on to old stories. How I wasn’t being “weak” or “undisciplined”—I was being human. A human whose brain had learned, very early on, that achievement equals safety, and stillness equals danger.

Suddenly, so much of my behaviour made sense. The overthinking. The people-pleasing. The urgency I felt about things that weren’t actually urgent. It wasn’t just personality—it was patterning and a dysregulated nervous system.

AND PATTERNS CAN BE CHANGED.

We’re not just brains. We’re bodies, too.

One of the biggest shifts for me was realising that coaching isn’t just about talking. It’s about reconnecting.

To the body.

To signals.

To emotion.

Neuroscience coaching respects that our nervous system runs the show more often than we’d like to admit.

Sometimes I’d try to “logic” my way out of stress, but my body was still stuck in a loop of hypervigilance. I couldn’t think myself into calm. I had to learn to feel safe again.

Through simple tools—like breathwork, visualisation, reframing thoughts, noticing body cues—I started to slowly come back online. Not in a productivity way. In a presence way. And the more I practiced, the more I noticed my reactions changing.

I didn’t snap as quickly. I could pause before spiralling. I felt a bit more in control—not of the world, but of how I met it.

What I love most about this work is how deeply human it is.

Every client I’ve worked with brings their own version of “why am I like this?”And more often than not, the answer is: you’re not broken. Your brain just learned some things that don’t serve you anymore.

Sometimes it’s about boundaries.

Or emotional regulation.

Or being able to switch off.

Sometimes it’s about learning to receive, instead of constantly giving. But underneath all of it is the same foundation:

Awareness. Safety. Rewiring.

Not for the sake of becoming someone else, but for the sake of becoming yourself again—before stress, trauma, or expectation pulled you away.

Final thought: If you’re feeling stuck, it’s not a flaw — it’s a message.

I used to think that hitting a wall meant failure. Now, I see it as data. Your brain and body are always communicating with you.

Neuroscience coaching simply teaches you how to listen—without judgment, without shame.

You can’t outthink a nervous system that’s in survival mode. But you can support it, gently and consistently, into a new state. One that allows you to be grounded, focused, and actually feel the life you’re living.

This isn’t just about becoming a “better version” of yourself.

It’s about coming back home to who you already are—once you understand how your brain has been trying to protect you all along.

AND HONESTLY?

That’s the most powerful work I’ve ever done.

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